The art of forgiveness! That’s what I think it is. In theory it sounds so easy to do. People go around sounding sophisticated saying things like “Forgive and you will feel lighter.”
So for a while I tried that sophisticated stuff saying I’d forgiven Person who had caused me pain. Well that’s until I hear Person is going through some form of hardship. Sophistication was thrown out the window and I did a dance at their pain. “SUFFER!!” I said.
But when the high from sweet revenge left my system and reality sobered me up I realised that I was no where near that place called Forgive-ville. Instead I was still having dinner at Angry-ville. I was and still am an angry woman.
You can’t claim to have forgiven someone when you are ready to throw a party just because Person has come across some form of sting. I’m all for letting go and forgiving but doing it…is something else.
So how does one do it? Forgive. I mean really forgive to a point where if you were to meet Person you’d be civil and even give a hug. How does one forgive purely and free themselves of the anger and resentment?
Right now the only solution I can think of is to go through the anger. Admit that it is there. Pretending otherwise is a heavy burden on it’s own.
Why do we encourage a world where people are not allowed to feel what they feel entirely?
“Hi, my name is Tokiso Masechaba Molefe and I’m angry!”